"Let Go to Commit"

It’s been a week of commitments.

We signed the freehold on our home in Bali. Moving money and legal structures across borders is as much fun as it sounds. But it’s a commitment to our new life, new business, and new country. A process that took almost 12 months, but actually started four years ago when we made the decision to leave the UK and see what happened..

I signed a partnership agreement between my Indonesian company and our school partner. That officially makes Future Human School one of the only legitimate and licensed schools in Ubud. That feels good. Real. We’re building a sustainable business with integrity.

And the biggest commitment of all - my marriage: it’s 16 years since Kerry and I tied the knot. None of these things would have been possible without her love, support and commitment to trust my choices. So we low key celebrated by eating lunch quietly while our kids went off to the mall without us.

None of these commitments were easy. But it feels like the hard way is usually the right way.

A phrase that came to me in my coaching calls, conversations and reflections - and especially in big decisions:

"Let go to commit."

People love keeping their options open. It feels smart. Flexible. Free.

But it can be an unconscious trap:

Keeping all your options open means you never really walk through any of the doors.

You’re just standing in the hallway. Waiting.

Waiting for "clarity"

Waiting for a "sign"

Waiting for "someone else" to go first.

But clarity doesn’t come before commitment.

It comes after.

The unknown but fun part.

If we hadn’t let go of old roles, egos, false safety nets, misaligned commitments, and accepted 'that' was life now, none of this would have happened.

Not the travel. Not the memories. Not the move. Not the school. Not the home. Not the momentum.

Letting go of the old creates space. And space is what allows the next thing to arrive.

When life feels in a holding pattern, I ask myself:

What are you still holding onto?

What would happen if you let it go?

The more I reflect, the more it seems true:

We don’t find out who we are by waiting.

We find out by committing.

And to commit, you have to let go.